People and their loved one in a nursing home?

people that that put their loved ones in nurseing homes let me tell you something,first of all if your going to put them in there, then go see them often and never go at the same time ,and if there is something you dont like speak up and let the nursing home staff have it , but first find out whose fault it is. and this is for every body in every city big or little,but listen to this please, for those people that are in small cities who are still in school and really anywhere in your small towns alot of your CNA's are people who cant or dont want to go out of their town to find work are mostly the people who take care of your family member, so before you become a bully in your school or work place just remember who might be taking care of them or you later on.this is the truth. im not saying every cna is like this , iv worked in a nursing home and ive always had a heart for old people but ive worked with peoples grandparents, mothers, fathers ect... and so has other people who i know.

People and their loved one in a nursing home?
I am also a nurse and have worked in nursing homes for many years. It is very true that the main problem is that there is never enough staff to care for your loved ones the way they should be cared for. This is a huge problem. Please people get together and let your politicians know that they need to change the laws that require so few to take care of so many. Nursing home execs are going to continue to hire only the amount required by law to stay "in compliance" . Until they raise the requirements it is not gonna change. I have seen many family members upset because mom didn't recieve adequate care. The truth was that there was one cna in charge of a hall with 23 residents!! But administration will tell them "we were in compliance"and they were. For example if you have a home with 54 residents, I believe you have to have 6 licensed personal on a 3-11 shift. Administration will count the charge nurse(sometimes two) and the med aide, that leaves 3 cna's to take care of 54 people! Also if a cna calls in they will use mrs. secratary down the hall if she is certified, leaving 2 cna's!. This happens all the time. But of course they are still "in compliance". Instead of griping at the cna's who are working their butts off to do an impossible job, scream at the politicians and demand more help!!! I am a very compassionate person and it is heart wrenching to see someone lay in urine or develope bed sores because they are not being cared for properly. And if at any time you see or hear of any kind of abuse, report it to the state immediately.
Reply:When it comes to the care of loved ones and even other people's loved ones, a concerned individual can make the biggest difference whether it be someone on the inside looking in or someone on the outside looking in. Any and everything could be considered suspect and then again when it comes to the sick and frail, any and everything could not be suspect. A trained eye, an individual with a conscience and an individual that cares, who observes anything that they feel is inappropriate in a nursing home atmosphere, should bring it to someone's attention. You have not posed a question, but your statement is very profound, if you know something, tell someone, it might mean the life or death of someone's loved one. God Bless.
Reply:My sister, at the age of 47, had an aneurysm and a massive stroke. That was about 8 years ago, and she is "still" in a nursing home today. All she can say is "I you." I love her so very much, and it hurts so bad in my heart that this happened to her. The first nursing home she was in was disgusting! I drove 8 hours to see her, and wanted to hurt the scumbag who was taking care of her that day. I told this woman that my sister needed to have her diaper and her bedding changed


right away. This woman said, "no, not untill your sister has had lunch." I said no, she needs to be changed NOW! This woman came at me, got in my face, and said NO! I will not change her till after lunch, and if you don't like it, leave! I told her to leave the room, called her supervisor, and had her fired that day. When I went out to my car, all four tires were flat on my car. I found out where this scumbag lived, and had her arrested, pressed charges, and she was sent "back" to


Mexico. These unfeeling jerks come in every color, race, background, ect. It takes a very caring person to care for these people in nursing homes, but a lot of places hire just anyone, because they are understaffed....how sad. I had my sister moved to a better, cleaner place, where they care for her a lot better. So I totally understand what you're saying.
Reply:I'll never forget the time I worked in a nursing home and a resident would play totally helpless but only when her daughter would visit. So one day her daughter thought she was going to jump a nurse about her mother who was whining about her not being able to feed herself. The nurse told the daughter when she's not there her mother never complains and does everything herself. The daughter smarted off to the nurse and told her, "So what are you saying? That I shouldn't visit my mother?" The nurse told her, "You can do whatever you want. I'm just telling you the facts." That shut the daughter up.
Reply:I understand your distress but what's your question?
Reply:I'm sorry you've had a bad experience with nursing care. I've worked for 10 yrs in a nursing home and let me tell you a few things you might not know. first of all there is never enough staff. 2nd, cnas are so under paid its ridiculous. once I had to feed 4 patients at once. management does not care about your loved ones. except to get your loved ones in the door. no one fights for us. I was a very caring caregiver while at a nursing facility. I now work in a hospital and the staffing situation is the same here. all nurses do is pass out meds. aides do all the dirty work with mostly no thanks. the pay scale is still at the bottom. I do my job because I love it. will you please fight for us? aides should not have any more than 6 patients we have 12. like I said, walk in our shoes for a day, maybe then you will see how hard we work being a PCA. we not only bathe your mom, we listen to her cry because no one comes to see her. we change her soiled pants and we hug her at night and tell her it will be o.k. we give them CPR if needed. we are the ones holding them as they are dying. so please don't condemn us. fight for us so we can take better care of your loved ones.
Reply:that is so true ,but we need people like you who look out some of us don't want to put our loved ones in those places but can't take care of them ,but the elderly are being abused and mistreated because the staff at some of these places think the old folks don't know what they are talking about and won't be believed, so yes be at the nursing home everyday if you can ,meal time bath time ,have the nurses thinking they don't know when you will be showing up.be come a nursing home Private eye
Reply:Same with little children - make sure you know who is taking care of your babies and drop by unanounced at all hours to make sure. I have worked in a lot of daycares and know the abuses that take place there. Do your homework.