People say that young people don't have manners or respect...but!?

I open doors for people, let older people on buses first, get up on trains/buses if there are no seats left for older people or people with children...


I usually only ever get dirty looks and no thank you...


I'm 19, and a girl...i make an effort be polite to older people,and i seem to get no respect or anything in return! A thank you costs nothing!


Does any one else get this?

People say that young people don't have manners or respect...but!?
Oh yes, but keep in mind. You were raised to be respectful to elders, and that is getting more and more rare in todays society. Just keep in mind that when you do that, your parents look good. Don't worry about what other people say and do, you can pat a hole in your back that you did what was right. Kudos to you.
Reply:I have no idea why people have a problem with younger people being nice. I've had better manners then people twice my age since I was eleven years old. My friends used to stare at me when I held a door open for someone or helped an older person get on or off a bus.
Reply:Good for you, you are obviously a polite well mannered young person.





The problem lies with the other person not you, and to answer your question I believe that young people do have manners and respect, unfortunately they can be a little too selective when they choose to use those qualities. Secondly I sometimes get the same response as you from the elderly and I am 44 years old. Don't worry it is not an exclusive thing to you.





Keep up the good work, it will get noticed even if you don't think it does.





Well done.
Reply:Thankyou.
Reply:You're so right! People are very rude. The other night we were kept awake by a guy who parked his car outside our house with his cd player on full blast. Singing loudly to the music for hours. To Country and Western! So how old was he????


There's no age barrier to bad manners. It's how you were brought up, I think. So your parents did you proud. Well done.
Reply:I'm 18 and I get that too, I get the odd thanks but not very often. All old people think we want something in return or are goin to mug them. Fair enough males might but us girls are jus poilite and are courteous to our elders and so we should be.





Hope u get sum thanks soon :-D
Reply:your true politeness will be tested when you can still be polite while others are rude to you. It's hard, but it feels better afterwards, for having clear conscience. Sometimes the crowd is just plain wrong. Cheer up girl.
Reply:Hiya you are a breath of fresh air, and sadly these days rare,you must know yourself that the sad yobs have put terror into many people,but it is just very rude if you are not thanked for being kind,it's not only rude but sad,as you say it costs nothing to be nice,it is FREE,so please don't change just stay the way you are,as you are a symbol of how kind us British are
Reply:Nah pet it's not you it's them. They expect you to be rude so they prejudge you.... My gran does it all the time. People are just generally rude and defensive.


I'm 32 and I get it a lot as well. I look at it as long as you know you've been polite than that's all that matters.I don't wish to tar everyone with the same brush but the further south you get the more ruder they get.
Reply:As a soon-to-be "old git', I always appreciate, and show consideration for others. Whilst there are some well behaved young'uns, like you, the fact is that the majority are not. Have you ever been on a bus full of schoolkids? Nightmare! Some older people may be naturally miserable, or withdrawn(many live a lonely life) - others are conditioned/accustomed to bad behaviour, and may be surprised by a sudden show of courtesy. I don't see much difference between the north and south, though.
Reply:others who are not hurt.the ones who are...polite..just contine been who you are
Reply:not really... sometimes, though, I do... i'm from asia... but that's just the way some people are... don't get bugged down by them...
Reply:yeah, im the same, i got out of my way being polite to poeple and they dont even acknowledge what you do, thats when i start being rude
Reply:Yes im in scotland, i think older people have less manners than younger people in most cases, if you hold door etc they never say thank you.
Reply:I'm the same age as you, and I was always taught to be respectful to others even if they wouldn't show you the same common courtesy. Some people are going to take your kindness for granted (too bad for them). But if you truly know that you're doing the right thing by being polite, that should be enough to justify your happiness. You know that you're making an effort to be nice to people...you know that you're showing good citizenship...you know that you're being respectful. Even if someone else won't acknowledge it, acknowledge it yourself. And just because someone doesn't acknowledge your kindness doesn't mean you should stop it. There are those who think highly of people like you.





On behalf of those who haven't said thank you, I want to say thank you for being kind to others. You won't believe how many young people like us set bad examples...
Reply:No, what part of the country are you from, the Northeast? That's probably why.
Reply:that is because they do not know how to use them.
Reply:Cant stand it when little old ladies barge you with their shopping trollies cos they want u to move but dont say excuse me!
Reply:Are the thank you's ,inwhich you miss, exspected in your acts. Most acts towards respect are done out of good habits in behavior. It's nice to reciece a thank you, but not exspected. You should have a feeling of gratification that fills your needs.