Why do people think this?

Ok. I have read several post on here about an age that people think is acceptable to be married.





I am almost 25 years old. I married when I was 19. I have read so many posts about people being too young at that age. I don't agree with that. I have a great marriage. With no problems. We own or home and our land. We don't live pay check to pay check.





I know people that got married at 16 and have been married 20+ years.





People look down thier noses at people that get married so young. I just don't understand it.





I am from the South and getting married after high school is the norm. And most of those people are still married.





Why does everyone think it is such a big deal to get married so young? I know of people that have been married for 25 years and get a divorce. People don't view that as a big deal.


I know people that don't get married until they are 30 years old and get divorced quick.





What gives?

Why do people think this?
I was married at 20 I am celebrating my 3 year anniversary today and plan on many more to come. My parents were married at 17 they are now in their 50's and still married. I have 2 sisters that have been married for over 16 years and they were married before 20. I think it depends on you as a person. Some people are not responsible enough to get married but think they are in love then find out its not as fun and easy as they thought but some people just know they have found their true love and are willing to make it work. Everyone fights but you have to be willing to work it out. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. I dont think divorces are caused by age but the person.
Reply:you go girl. you rock!
Reply:I don't think it's wrong, necessarily. A friend of mine got married at 15 and that's been 22 years ago. I just hate to think of all the marriages fail and the young folks are left raising kids alone and the other young parent is struggling to make ends meet.





In a perfect world, all marriages should be as you describe, but not all people make good money or have stable jobs, in this economy. Not all young couples are as mature as you seem to be.





So it's not "wrong", I just hate to see people struggle.
Reply:I got married when I was 19, actually just 9 days before my 20th birthday and I will have been married 33 years this year. As you said things come up in a marriage, it can be a struggle but if you love each other you can work out your problems.
Reply:I think its just cos there are so many divorces in todays world that people are worried that the ones they love are rushing into things and its all gonna end in tears.


Personally, I don't care what people do regarding marriage etc as long as they are enjoying life.


Your marriage has worked so you can just ignore those people that frown upon it and be happy!


Don't let it get to you hunny!
Reply:so you got married young, and it has worked out. good for you. most young people cant say the same. we have all been there, done that.
Reply:Good for you.
Reply:You are the exception, not the norm. Statistically, most marriages do not survive the younger you get married. People change and mature.
Reply:Statistics show that the younger you are when you get married, the higher your chance of getting divorced. That's not people looking down on young marriage, that's cold, hard fact.





It's fantastic that your marriage is still happy, but that's not proof of anything.
Reply:to tell the truth I,m from the deep south ,%26amp; i can tell ya that now adays ,people want to have a good paying job to keep a home going.But if youre in love , truely in love then more power to you
Reply:You are right, you can't go by age as more than a guide line.





Some people are mature enough at 19 or 20. Others are not ready at 25 or 30. It depends entirely on the two people involved.





I got married at 26 and that worked out well for me. It will be 25 years this June.
Reply:I agree to an extent. Although I also think a lot of young people dont realise what marriage means, so early in life. How final it is. Or they jump in far too quickly. Young people are FAR more likely to do things impulsively and without thinking of the consequences.





At 19 a lot of people live in there here and now. I want to get married, play house, make babies, it'll be fun. But 5 years later they realised for them it isn't that fun, or he's not that great, etc.





However, for some people, that doesn't change as they age either, like you said. 30 year olds can be just as impulsive, too.





I just think it's really important to understand how life works, on your own, before marriage. 19 or 30. If you live with mommy and daddy all through highschool with everything given/paid for and then jump into a wedding and your own stuff and jobs at Mcdonalds..it's going to be tough and not fun and hard to deal with.





But I think a lot of people at 19 also have learned enough about life to know whether theyre making the right decision.





ADD: I wasnt talking about you OP, just so you know!! I was just saying thats what SOME young people do, and it kicks them in the butt!!

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