Why are people so rude these days?

Seriously, as both a customer and someone who worked in service, why do people have serious attitude problems? When I was a cashier i'd have people throw money and fling it (and expect their change to be handed to them), flip out for no apparent reason other than just because; and even as a customer myself I experience servers who don't hand me my change/card (after I handed it to THEM), people with attitudes, makes me wonder why people are so unfriendly these days. I know people hate their jobs and what not, but what happened to professional service and courtesy among society as a whole these days? I'm 19 and especially teens and people close to my age are especially rude when it comes to service, although I won't discount the fact that most older people are extremely nasty and rude as people in general. Why are people so miserable in the first place?

Why are people so rude these days?
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I have to say that most of the rudeness I encounter seems to come from younger people who are at that age where they are probably very new to working with the general public. I chalk it up to a lack of maturity and that perhaps no one ever taught them any manners. People of all ages can certainly be rude though!! The common thread seems to be ignorance and an unwillingness and/or inability to see cashiers and food servers etc as human beings as opposed to an object on which to vent their frustrations.





My own experience in working with people has taught me that politeness and a willingness to do the best job I can actually makes dealing with people easier. Most of the time if someone (even a person who seems rude or difficult) sees that you are doing everything you can to help them out instead of reacting to their words or tone of voice they will appreciate it and often apologize for their behavior.





It took me a while to learn that though!
Reply:There's an art to it and it involves more than just being reasonable.... Report It

Reply:So true, they seem to take out all their frustrations out on the whole world. I myself have worked in customer service, and have come across the most rudest people. I try to be nice to everyone, and not take out my anger on the general public. I don't think that people know what respect and courteous is anymore. It's something that has lost meaning today.
Reply:It all goes back to the home and up-bringing, education, level of education of the person and their family. How they perceive life, how they perceive, race, job place, and job level. I agree with you in some places of services. I work in office place and it seems many of my co-workers, friendly, and nice, co-operative, give advice when needed. I wonder, if we switch their jobs and put them to work in services, different places, will they be still nice. Also, the life and its hassles and difficulties, challenges with every day life. Like, If I had a trouble social -family life that will effect my performance at work. as of teenagers , I agree with you partial, because I didn't grow up in the US, I only see them in stores, public events, on the bus, especially at providing services , they lake respect to other, like they don't give a .crab about anyone, seriously. I know one friend who just curse and talk back to the boss at the first week; they are not up for challenges and pressures. (Not all of them) Also, it has some gender relations and perception. I saw a guy who is rude and ignorance when he was talking to elder sales person, and flip, switch 360 degree when seeing a young girl, he start to act, show, talk, behave, react, approach.... With respect, smile on the face, nice manners, polite, smile.... it goes both ways and by women and men alike. Yet, I have seen great wonderful people cross race, gender, and ethnicity... yes, they are here. Don’t give up. They will come to you.
Reply:Maybe that customer had the runs, the lady is PMS'g, their kid puked all over the car's leather interior, or they lost their job, and didn't get laid in months.





Now, if that ain't a cataclysmic eruption, I would say rudeness is nothing.........
Reply:It is poor choice of behavior for someone to take their misfortune out on an innocent bystander. I think that when life gets people down, if they are mentally weak, they will treat others like crap.





Personally, I never do that because you never know who you run into again later in life. I had someone treat me incredibly rude when I was younger and in an ironic turn of events, I wound up becomming their boss about 3 weeks after. I never took out my frustration over it on them, but it just goes to show you be nice to everyone.
Reply:its johnnys fault, so ill kill hall, because im an idiot and daltons a tall bastard, ha....o no....NOOOOOOO I have ot suck ward off...NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
Reply:I completely agree with you. What is people's problem? Everyone is having a hard time, and therefore everyone should try to make other people's lives easier by being courteous. I'm experiencing the same thigns as you are, and it's a vicious circle: once you are rude, they will be rude and so on and so forth. Even if you behave with manners people will often respond in a way you don't expect them to. The best thing to do is ignore them, as far as you can. If someone really disrespects you, then let them know.
Reply:That is predicated typically by location. Big city with urban sprawl brings out the negativity in some people.





Smaller towns while more narrow minded are more often to be nicer in nature because they know each other.





Because it is rare in big cities you just have to keep your wits about you and go through with the nature of politeness you have chosen. It will be noticed.
Reply:I just read in a magazine that 70% of people think that they are too busy to use manners! That just blew my mind! How can you be too busy to take one second to say "please" or "thank you"?!?! Also our younger generation learns from their parents. If the adults took the time to be more polite so would their kids!
Reply:I understand how you feel. I used to work as a waitress in hotel restaurant and some customer are so rude it really makes you unhappy and spoil your day.





I guess there are many angry and short tempered people...
Reply:They are probably lazy, or having a pretty bad day. Some people are like this all the time. It's the sad truth.
Reply:I think this is a problem with how people are raised. The spoil ed brats either never had someone bring them up short or are so used to the princess/prince mentality that they don't see others as "real" people. Yes It's possible to have a bad day and still have basic manners. It's a question of who you want to be versus what someone else wants you to feel. I suspect it's also a lack of human contact since the machine age.





Unless I'm mistaken most manners came out of a need for social lubrication to prevent unwarranted fatalities. Being rude was good enough cause to eliminate the other person from the breeding population. It then when too far with Victorian ultra-manners and now the pendulum is swinging back to rude. The question is how many lost before it swings back or something moderates it?
Reply:Pressure,, hatred. But the root is UPBRINGING. No one taught them respect. You have to know respect before you can give respect. Those people never knew the meaning. Sure everyone gets pissed from time to time but they have to realize that its not the one waiting on you or the person behind the counter who is at fault. One should bite their tongue or go to management if their is a problem. That's what is wrong in every country is the upbringing of a child. Attitude is taught not something that is learned overnight.
Reply:I've been in your job. They heard the customer is always right so they think they can get away with the abuse.People are rude to us because they are afraid to open their mouth to the ones they're really angry with. Ignore them!!!!!!
Reply:I think it comes from the way we are brought up. Young people today think it's a give me give me society. They have not had to work hard for much and they have not had to many responsibilities. It's time we get back to the day when a hand shake was your word of honor.
Reply:TBD to busy disorder
Reply:honestly , people's so nice if a national tradgedy happens , or if somebody's dieing.