Hi! I'm a guy in 5th grade and I've noticed that a lot of people are jerks to me and other people. In 4th Grade people were nice and respected each other. I'm a little plump and in 4th grade no one made mean jokes about other people's weight or other things like that. Now people are like, "Andrew, I'm amazed you kicked the ball in kickball," and, "You know Andrew, you sacrifice athletic abilities for brains." Why are people such jerks?!?! They make fun of each other and are mean! This one kid, Peter, liked this girl, Julia, but so did Austin. On valentines day Peter got julia some chocolate and a necklace. Austin got her chocolate. BAM! Next day Austin is at School with a necklace! They hate each other and Austin is a jerk to peter and made him cry several times! What is wrong with people?!?! Can somebody please tell me why people are like this in 5th Grade??? Thanks
Why are people such jerks in 5th Grade?
They are immature, you are mature for you age, I know I was and it was kind of hard for me to deal with this childnish. I got along okay by just ignoring it, they'll grow up some time, you guys are still young.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Why are physically attractive people given special treatment by society?
This is true not only on the dating scene, but in all arenas. Studies have actually shown that parents treat attractive children better than they treat unattractive children, teachers give better grades to attractive students than they do to unattractive students, attractive people get more job promotions than unattractive people, and attractive people are acquitted of crimes more often than unattractive people. Don't get me wrong. I can understand why attractive people would get more dates than unattractive people, since sexual attraction is very important when it comes to dating and mating. However, why do attractive people have so many advantages in so many other areas of life? After all, giving so many advantages to physically attractive people isn't always necessarily advantageous for the people giving them the advantages. Not only that, but why are people being rewarded for hitting the genetic jackpot? After all, it's not as if they worked for it or earned it. Being beautiful is
Why are physically attractive people given special treatment by society?
has to do with eye appeal, and hardwiring. Men notice large breasts, nicely shaped derieres, etc. Women notice either cute boyish features or muscles, size, etc. Sex appeal, respect. We naturally tend to love and admire beautiful things--who feels sorry for a person who is gangly and unattractive and socially outset, when you can feel sorry for the pretty young girl with the sunny smile--who dies suddenly.
Ive found that some people have an inner light that is so bright you cant help but notice and not judge, but this is rare.
I think its mostly about appeal like strength and height for men, and breasts and buns for women, and facial beauty for both sexes of course.
Concepts like reincarnation suggest that we get what we need to advance spiritually, so by this philosophy we do choose our looks!
Reply:Let me say first, you seem to have put much thought into your question. Simply put, people respond more positively to things of a pleasant nature than not. Would the typical person prefer to be surrounded by delightful blooming flowers, luscious green grass, and trees w/ branches swaying in the wind or by a baron desolate scenery? The same applies when it comes to giving esthetically pleasing individuals advantages in life (as you stated often times not deserved). How many times have you interacted w/ that individual so pleasing to the eye it makes you ache? Yet once you realized the personality or even their demeanor did not mirror the outward shell, how quickly did your opinion change? Riddle me this, which is stronger the cactus or the rose, one all prickly with thorns, the other with thorns but beautiful blooms being the first thing to draw ones eye? Which might benefit one more in the long run? The one that was pleasing to most of our senses or the one that can provide us a means to stay alive? What's more advantageous is not what first drives an individual to action. Now that I've waxed philosophical, if you care to review opinions based on scientific research, check out http://www.sciencenetlinks.com/sci_updat... or other such sites.
Reply:cuz jmen enjoy watching me..
Reply:Sometimes we only see the positive side to what we think "good looking' people are going through.
I used to get away with more things when I was younger and "attractive" then I do now that I am getting old.
Even attractive people have to grow spritualy or they will be miserable when they get old.
I used to have a friend that was a high-fashion Vouge quality model.She often feel in love with men who didn't care for her at all they only wanted to be seen in her company.She had very low self-estem as far as men were concerned.
Humans basically have to go through the same experiences in life, some just get a head start from their looks.
Reply:I DO AGREE WITH U BUT NOT IN ALL. THERE ARE MANY UNATTRACTIVE PEOPLE WHO R MORE LUCKY THAT OTHERS
Reply:Because it's not a set up, there is no 'father' type god ensuring fair play. You are the culmination of all your ancestors going way back each choosing the best mate they could get to make a better offspring, you. OK, maybe they weren't the sharpest tools in the box but you aren't all covered in fur and craving bananas (are you?) The marvel is that in this ruthless quest to build a better mousetrap Humanity has developed its own rules and principles of fairness and equality (and creator myths) that it willfully imposes on the world in spite of the fact that Science is correct and inevitably will have to impose Eugenics and turn away or not accept many who are not 'figuratively' already on this life boat (Earth) as it can only hold so many.
Reply:It is easier when your attractive most of the time but not all the time. I've heard some of my employers say that they like having attractive people around them because it makes them look good also. Plus attractive people attract people to them which makes things easier.
When it comes to dating they come to you , you don't have to go to them. So yes it helps a lot with dating also. The only people I run into that give you hard time about it is feminist and jealous people, but I can understand why most of the time and it doesn't bother me.
Being beautiful doesn't do it all, you still have to work. Plus you have to put up with people that puts you up on a pedestal in a sense and then looks up to you or down at you depending on how they feel about themselves. It's not always nice.
Some beautiful people are snobs and others aren't, the ones that aren't thinks everyone is beautiful and treats them as such.
Reply:Because nature has set it up that way. Beautiful features usually mean that you are probably healthy and will probably reproduce the same way. This is why it we view people as beautiful on the outside and there is nothing we can do to change our views. Also beautiful people are probably looked at as better value to company advertisement.
Reply:Because of biology....its in our nature to favour more attractive people as we have primal instincts that tell us they have better genes than less attractive people and would breed healthier children. Look it up on the net somewhere. Just harsh reality. People cannot help it.
Reply:Due to the gift of Sight...We tend to get attracted to people who are good-looking...and thus, preferential treatment....
Reply:Because regardless of what people think humans are still first and foremost animals and what we find attractive influences us more than our reason and or or rationality.
Your second question is basically asking if that's fair. Nature isn't fair, human nature isn't fair, it is what it is. Over time we can change natural habits to be more moral but that's a very slow process
Reply:it is presumed their genes are superior therefore you can breed with them to make superior babies.... in the absence of breeding rights.... it is a case of living in hope of breeding with them.....
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Why are physically attractive people given special treatment by society?
has to do with eye appeal, and hardwiring. Men notice large breasts, nicely shaped derieres, etc. Women notice either cute boyish features or muscles, size, etc. Sex appeal, respect. We naturally tend to love and admire beautiful things--who feels sorry for a person who is gangly and unattractive and socially outset, when you can feel sorry for the pretty young girl with the sunny smile--who dies suddenly.
Ive found that some people have an inner light that is so bright you cant help but notice and not judge, but this is rare.
I think its mostly about appeal like strength and height for men, and breasts and buns for women, and facial beauty for both sexes of course.
Concepts like reincarnation suggest that we get what we need to advance spiritually, so by this philosophy we do choose our looks!
Reply:Let me say first, you seem to have put much thought into your question. Simply put, people respond more positively to things of a pleasant nature than not. Would the typical person prefer to be surrounded by delightful blooming flowers, luscious green grass, and trees w/ branches swaying in the wind or by a baron desolate scenery? The same applies when it comes to giving esthetically pleasing individuals advantages in life (as you stated often times not deserved). How many times have you interacted w/ that individual so pleasing to the eye it makes you ache? Yet once you realized the personality or even their demeanor did not mirror the outward shell, how quickly did your opinion change? Riddle me this, which is stronger the cactus or the rose, one all prickly with thorns, the other with thorns but beautiful blooms being the first thing to draw ones eye? Which might benefit one more in the long run? The one that was pleasing to most of our senses or the one that can provide us a means to stay alive? What's more advantageous is not what first drives an individual to action. Now that I've waxed philosophical, if you care to review opinions based on scientific research, check out http://www.sciencenetlinks.com/sci_updat... or other such sites.
Reply:cuz jmen enjoy watching me..
Reply:Sometimes we only see the positive side to what we think "good looking' people are going through.
I used to get away with more things when I was younger and "attractive" then I do now that I am getting old.
Even attractive people have to grow spritualy or they will be miserable when they get old.
I used to have a friend that was a high-fashion Vouge quality model.She often feel in love with men who didn't care for her at all they only wanted to be seen in her company.She had very low self-estem as far as men were concerned.
Humans basically have to go through the same experiences in life, some just get a head start from their looks.
Reply:I DO AGREE WITH U BUT NOT IN ALL. THERE ARE MANY UNATTRACTIVE PEOPLE WHO R MORE LUCKY THAT OTHERS
Reply:Because it's not a set up, there is no 'father' type god ensuring fair play. You are the culmination of all your ancestors going way back each choosing the best mate they could get to make a better offspring, you. OK, maybe they weren't the sharpest tools in the box but you aren't all covered in fur and craving bananas (are you?) The marvel is that in this ruthless quest to build a better mousetrap Humanity has developed its own rules and principles of fairness and equality (and creator myths) that it willfully imposes on the world in spite of the fact that Science is correct and inevitably will have to impose Eugenics and turn away or not accept many who are not 'figuratively' already on this life boat (Earth) as it can only hold so many.
Reply:It is easier when your attractive most of the time but not all the time. I've heard some of my employers say that they like having attractive people around them because it makes them look good also. Plus attractive people attract people to them which makes things easier.
When it comes to dating they come to you , you don't have to go to them. So yes it helps a lot with dating also. The only people I run into that give you hard time about it is feminist and jealous people, but I can understand why most of the time and it doesn't bother me.
Being beautiful doesn't do it all, you still have to work. Plus you have to put up with people that puts you up on a pedestal in a sense and then looks up to you or down at you depending on how they feel about themselves. It's not always nice.
Some beautiful people are snobs and others aren't, the ones that aren't thinks everyone is beautiful and treats them as such.
Reply:Because nature has set it up that way. Beautiful features usually mean that you are probably healthy and will probably reproduce the same way. This is why it we view people as beautiful on the outside and there is nothing we can do to change our views. Also beautiful people are probably looked at as better value to company advertisement.
Reply:Because of biology....its in our nature to favour more attractive people as we have primal instincts that tell us they have better genes than less attractive people and would breed healthier children. Look it up on the net somewhere. Just harsh reality. People cannot help it.
Reply:Due to the gift of Sight...We tend to get attracted to people who are good-looking...and thus, preferential treatment....
Reply:Because regardless of what people think humans are still first and foremost animals and what we find attractive influences us more than our reason and or or rationality.
Your second question is basically asking if that's fair. Nature isn't fair, human nature isn't fair, it is what it is. Over time we can change natural habits to be more moral but that's a very slow process
Reply:it is presumed their genes are superior therefore you can breed with them to make superior babies.... in the absence of breeding rights.... it is a case of living in hope of breeding with them.....
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People from each area of the United States?
Simple enough question - what are the majority of people like from each area of the United States? I live in the US, but just want other people's opinions. Let's divide it into categories: New England (New England States and sorrounding states close by), the south east (Carolinas, Virginia, Florida, etc.), the deep south (Alabama, Lousiania, Mississippi, etc.), the mid-west (Michigan, Illinois, Iowa, Kansas, Nebraska, Missouri, the Dakoktas, Montana, etc.), the south west (Arizona, Texas, Colorado, New Mexico, etc.), and the pacific northeast (California, Oregon, Washington, etc.)....
I just want to find out people's opinions on how the people are in each area of the country, the general "feel" or traditions or styles of each area, what life and culture is like there, and what kinds of people would like it there. People who know all areas of the country would be best to answer these questions... thanks everyone.
People from each area of the United States?
I live in New Orleans and its pretty much all about food and music.
We're known for our festivals like Jazz Fest and Mardi Gras which is just about hanging with friends, meeting new people, eating some food, drinking some drink, listening to some music, etc.
Its a real laid back place and the people are mostly friendly.
Reply:The Pacific Northwest is beautiful and the people are laid back......lots of out door activities .camping, sailing, surfing and a great spiritual place.
Southwest is really dry in the summer but beautiful too.snow isn't a real subject here ,Foods are great ,green and red chili,peopleare culturally diverse and friendly Many indigineous peoples ,and hispanics,also a large anglo population.
Midwest flat, cold, bible belt, conservative.
southeast beautiful great universities, cultural diversity , conservative/ rural areas , christian conservative slower income areas
New England Democratic, highly educated, lots of things to do! Love the east Very expensive to live here...lots of museums, etc.people are kinda snobby.....
Reply:I am from Oklahoma. People here are pleasant and friendly. Lots of "good ol boys". Things are not to expensive here when you compare it to things on the west coast. I wish we put more importance on education though. The weather is great. Few tornadoes but nothing to much to worry about. Oklahoma is a good place ot live and raise a family.
Reply:I live in upstate NY, 500 ft. from Lake Ontario, and up here it's about surviving the snow and cold and making it to the next summer. Other than that it's great..........
Reply:I have lived all over the world and by far where I currently lives is my favorite. I am attending school in Ames, Iowa.
The people here are so nice, and friendly. It doesn't matter what you need if you ask someone they are more than willing to help. the lifestyle here is more laid back and less fast paced. I mean we don't move at the speed of snails but slower than NYC.
Many people in this area are very centered around our families. it's important to see them, spend time with them and just have a great time. I used to live in Omaha, Nebraska and I also liked that city because it isn't a huge city but not a small town either but can offer everything that a big city does.
I take great offense when people say we are all corn frowers who wear overalls. While attending school I work for a top 10 insurance agency that is headquartered in iowa.
Hope that helps
I just want to find out people's opinions on how the people are in each area of the country, the general "feel" or traditions or styles of each area, what life and culture is like there, and what kinds of people would like it there. People who know all areas of the country would be best to answer these questions... thanks everyone.
People from each area of the United States?
I live in New Orleans and its pretty much all about food and music.
We're known for our festivals like Jazz Fest and Mardi Gras which is just about hanging with friends, meeting new people, eating some food, drinking some drink, listening to some music, etc.
Its a real laid back place and the people are mostly friendly.
Reply:The Pacific Northwest is beautiful and the people are laid back......lots of out door activities .camping, sailing, surfing and a great spiritual place.
Southwest is really dry in the summer but beautiful too.snow isn't a real subject here ,Foods are great ,green and red chili,peopleare culturally diverse and friendly Many indigineous peoples ,and hispanics,also a large anglo population.
Midwest flat, cold, bible belt, conservative.
southeast beautiful great universities, cultural diversity , conservative/ rural areas , christian conservative slower income areas
New England Democratic, highly educated, lots of things to do! Love the east Very expensive to live here...lots of museums, etc.people are kinda snobby.....
Reply:I am from Oklahoma. People here are pleasant and friendly. Lots of "good ol boys". Things are not to expensive here when you compare it to things on the west coast. I wish we put more importance on education though. The weather is great. Few tornadoes but nothing to much to worry about. Oklahoma is a good place ot live and raise a family.
Reply:I live in upstate NY, 500 ft. from Lake Ontario, and up here it's about surviving the snow and cold and making it to the next summer. Other than that it's great..........
Reply:I have lived all over the world and by far where I currently lives is my favorite. I am attending school in Ames, Iowa.
The people here are so nice, and friendly. It doesn't matter what you need if you ask someone they are more than willing to help. the lifestyle here is more laid back and less fast paced. I mean we don't move at the speed of snails but slower than NYC.
Many people in this area are very centered around our families. it's important to see them, spend time with them and just have a great time. I used to live in Omaha, Nebraska and I also liked that city because it isn't a huge city but not a small town either but can offer everything that a big city does.
I take great offense when people say we are all corn frowers who wear overalls. While attending school I work for a top 10 insurance agency that is headquartered in iowa.
Hope that helps
Some People Focus On America's Best Points , Others Look For Negative . . . Which Group Is Better Company ?
Sometimes, no matter how good the news is, some people are so negative that their negative attitude won't let them be happy . Not a day goes by where these people don't relish in whatever bad they can find . These are the same people who are willing to go back a hundred years or more to find anything that would damper current American pride and success.
While others truly Love our country and really enjoy spreading the good news . These are the people who truly appreciate living in the greatest country of the world .
This is also why people in the second group often call people in the first group , Unpatriotic .
I tend to agree because by it's very definition, Patriotism implies Positive , not negative .
Which Group Of People Make Better Company ?
Some People Focus On America's Best Points , Others Look For Negative . . . Which Group Is Better Company ?
The positive people are definitely the ones I want to be around. I don't care to spend any of my time being depressed by what could be. Even though there are lots of negative things going on, that isn't outweighed by living in the greatest country in the world. I still have my freedoms and am incredibly grateful for that.
Come to think of it, I think there are a lot of negative people that seem to live in a bubble and perhaps due to lack of exposure aren't aware of just how good we have it in this country.
**edit**
Oops, I deleted my last paragraph.
All that said, I don't think the negative can be ignored entirely. The best way to rid the negative is to turn it into a positive.
**one more edit**
I CANNOT stand Americans that have nothing nice to say about our govt. Sure they've screwed lots of things up but they've also done good. I can't think of one single govt out there that hasn't screwed something up or allowed something tragic to happen to someone else. Oh how I could go on and on right now, but I won't. And not everything that is wrong with our country is the govt's fault. I think Political correctness is a nasty disease that needs a cure.
Reply:I like realistic optimists. Can you tell me which group is which,in your opinion?
Reply:If your a optimist then the glass is half full,likewise if your a pessimist then the glass is half empty.To each their own.
Swoosh 2 points!
Reply:I prefer the company of realists. :)
Reply:you take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life. I loved that show:-)
some people think we have to be optimistic all the time and others seem to think we must more pessimistic or we will get taken advantage of. I do not agree. one must be a realistic to ever truly be optimistic or to be justified when seeming to be pessimistic.
I understand that as a country we haven't always been right and have made great mistakes but the good that we have done out weighs the bad. I will be 41 in a few months and I am, and have been all of my life proud of this land that I call home the United States of America. with all her imperfections and sorted history she is still the Greatest Nation under God.
Reply:I prefer to be around optimists.
I am a pessimist myself and don't need help coming up with doomsday scenarios.
Reply:Patriotism in neither optimistic or pessimistic, by definition it is love. People who love something wish to see it grow, and that means seeing it for what it is, and allowing it to grow.
Thomas Jefferson once said that Dissent is the highest form of Patriotism.
Living in reality and looking at what is there, not what you wish was there is patriotic. Whether what is there is positive or negative, you are not a patriot if you chose to ignore what exists. To love a county - as patriotism implies - means to hold it to a high standard and to wish to see it grow. If a person simply looks for negatives at the point of vitriol, lacking a motive to improve a negative point that person is not a patriot. Likewise if a person chooses to live in a self-induced mental fog, because it would involve seeing things they don't want to see or accepting things they don't want to accept that person despises their country. Truth is beauty and beauty is truth.
Reply:Neither. They're both irritating and delusional.
Reply:As a single tear runs down my cheek......give me a break preacher....There's a difference between optimism and blowing smoke up people's a**es.....and the people in your second group call the people in the first group unpatriotic because they(unlike most beople with a brain) cannot seperate their "country" from their "government". This IS the greatest country in the world...but if you can't acknowledge that our government is responsible for some pretty silly, and awful things, and should be held accountable for it...that's not being patriotic, it's being ignorant.
Oh...to answer your rant posing as a question....the negative people make better company....they're more fun at parties.
While others truly Love our country and really enjoy spreading the good news . These are the people who truly appreciate living in the greatest country of the world .
This is also why people in the second group often call people in the first group , Unpatriotic .
I tend to agree because by it's very definition, Patriotism implies Positive , not negative .
Which Group Of People Make Better Company ?
Some People Focus On America's Best Points , Others Look For Negative . . . Which Group Is Better Company ?
The positive people are definitely the ones I want to be around. I don't care to spend any of my time being depressed by what could be. Even though there are lots of negative things going on, that isn't outweighed by living in the greatest country in the world. I still have my freedoms and am incredibly grateful for that.
Come to think of it, I think there are a lot of negative people that seem to live in a bubble and perhaps due to lack of exposure aren't aware of just how good we have it in this country.
**edit**
Oops, I deleted my last paragraph.
All that said, I don't think the negative can be ignored entirely. The best way to rid the negative is to turn it into a positive.
**one more edit**
I CANNOT stand Americans that have nothing nice to say about our govt. Sure they've screwed lots of things up but they've also done good. I can't think of one single govt out there that hasn't screwed something up or allowed something tragic to happen to someone else. Oh how I could go on and on right now, but I won't. And not everything that is wrong with our country is the govt's fault. I think Political correctness is a nasty disease that needs a cure.
Reply:I like realistic optimists. Can you tell me which group is which,in your opinion?
Reply:If your a optimist then the glass is half full,likewise if your a pessimist then the glass is half empty.To each their own.
Swoosh 2 points!
Reply:I prefer the company of realists. :)
Reply:you take the good, you take the bad, you take them both and there you have the facts of life. I loved that show:-)
some people think we have to be optimistic all the time and others seem to think we must more pessimistic or we will get taken advantage of. I do not agree. one must be a realistic to ever truly be optimistic or to be justified when seeming to be pessimistic.
I understand that as a country we haven't always been right and have made great mistakes but the good that we have done out weighs the bad. I will be 41 in a few months and I am, and have been all of my life proud of this land that I call home the United States of America. with all her imperfections and sorted history she is still the Greatest Nation under God.
Reply:I prefer to be around optimists.
I am a pessimist myself and don't need help coming up with doomsday scenarios.
Reply:Patriotism in neither optimistic or pessimistic, by definition it is love. People who love something wish to see it grow, and that means seeing it for what it is, and allowing it to grow.
Thomas Jefferson once said that Dissent is the highest form of Patriotism.
Living in reality and looking at what is there, not what you wish was there is patriotic. Whether what is there is positive or negative, you are not a patriot if you chose to ignore what exists. To love a county - as patriotism implies - means to hold it to a high standard and to wish to see it grow. If a person simply looks for negatives at the point of vitriol, lacking a motive to improve a negative point that person is not a patriot. Likewise if a person chooses to live in a self-induced mental fog, because it would involve seeing things they don't want to see or accepting things they don't want to accept that person despises their country. Truth is beauty and beauty is truth.
Reply:Neither. They're both irritating and delusional.
Reply:As a single tear runs down my cheek......give me a break preacher....There's a difference between optimism and blowing smoke up people's a**es.....and the people in your second group call the people in the first group unpatriotic because they(unlike most beople with a brain) cannot seperate their "country" from their "government". This IS the greatest country in the world...but if you can't acknowledge that our government is responsible for some pretty silly, and awful things, and should be held accountable for it...that's not being patriotic, it's being ignorant.
Oh...to answer your rant posing as a question....the negative people make better company....they're more fun at parties.
Why do people let criminals talk them into believing that people who try to arrest them are bad?
I mean, criminals are people who have done something wrong to another person, and they are people who are willing to hurt other people with any necessities nearby, so why does society make a big deal out of criminals being bashed by cops? If you ask me, I think the criminal getting bashed to the ground by cops for doing something wrong, getting handcuffs put on him, and being put into a jail cell, so that people on the street who would like to kill him can't kill him sounds a lot better to me, than being put back out on the streets for people to eventually kill him (because people out on the streets who are after him are not worried about whether they will hurt his little legs or arms, while they are bashing him to the ground-seems kind of ironic, huh?
So, why do people fall for the non-sensical belief that criminals are deprived and that they should be treated exceptionally well by cops, when the rest of humanity would crush him, if this criminal messed with them?
Why do people let criminals talk them into believing that people who try to arrest them are bad?
I wish more people like you sat in jury on criminal cases.
2 Tim 3:13 -- But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived.
So, why do people fall for the non-sensical belief that criminals are deprived and that they should be treated exceptionally well by cops, when the rest of humanity would crush him, if this criminal messed with them?
Why do people let criminals talk them into believing that people who try to arrest them are bad?
I wish more people like you sat in jury on criminal cases.
2 Tim 3:13 -- But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived.
People know me but I don't know them?
This has happened a few times over the past 2 years.
People will come up to me and begin talking to me like they've known me their entire life.
I don't think it's mistaken identity because i'd think they realized they had the wrong person after a few minutes. A couple of the people knew my name.
But people just begin talking to me, asking how everything is going, how my summer was going.
Most recently someone came up to me and said "Hi! How have you been? We haven't talked in so long. How have things been?"
I don't really know what to say because I can't remember ever meeting or even seeing these people for the life of me.
It's happened almost only with people who go to the same school as I do, so I don't think they are really completely strangers.
Any reason why I just can't remember these people. I must have some importance to them by the way they speak to me, but I just cannot remember them.
Any ideas?
People know me but I don't know them?
Some people make bigger deals out of small things than others. You may have sat next to them in a class, or one of their friends liked you or whatever. But since it probably wasn't particularly significant to you, you won't make any mental note of it.
Reply:Do you drink alot? Maybe you've partied with them and were blacked out.
Reply:drinking or drugs could cause this. or you could just be totally self-obsessed and float through life not caring about and ignoring others.
don't get me wrong, it's happened to me a couple times. but i smoked a lot of pot as a teenager. but it sounds like it happens to you more than that, so i'd say you have some sort of intelligence/memory/ego problem.
Reply:okay, here is my theory about not remembering and alzenheimer,s diease, one not having to do with the other,,,
so you don,t remember, now don,t get upset,or even miffed, but the people you do not remember are not worth it, somewhere in the spiritual world, they are not worth remembering, sounds weird or crule, i know, but this is just a passing thought about this,
sure the entire thing about not remembering people who seem to know you is, or can even be a bit unnerving, i don,t know what to say about all this, as it being in school, let another ten or fifteen years go by, see about remembering, some people are just being friendly and know you don,t really know them, well i shouldn, t say friendly , i don,t know what is going on here, anyway, hope you have some answers,
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People will come up to me and begin talking to me like they've known me their entire life.
I don't think it's mistaken identity because i'd think they realized they had the wrong person after a few minutes. A couple of the people knew my name.
But people just begin talking to me, asking how everything is going, how my summer was going.
Most recently someone came up to me and said "Hi! How have you been? We haven't talked in so long. How have things been?"
I don't really know what to say because I can't remember ever meeting or even seeing these people for the life of me.
It's happened almost only with people who go to the same school as I do, so I don't think they are really completely strangers.
Any reason why I just can't remember these people. I must have some importance to them by the way they speak to me, but I just cannot remember them.
Any ideas?
People know me but I don't know them?
Some people make bigger deals out of small things than others. You may have sat next to them in a class, or one of their friends liked you or whatever. But since it probably wasn't particularly significant to you, you won't make any mental note of it.
Reply:Do you drink alot? Maybe you've partied with them and were blacked out.
Reply:drinking or drugs could cause this. or you could just be totally self-obsessed and float through life not caring about and ignoring others.
don't get me wrong, it's happened to me a couple times. but i smoked a lot of pot as a teenager. but it sounds like it happens to you more than that, so i'd say you have some sort of intelligence/memory/ego problem.
Reply:okay, here is my theory about not remembering and alzenheimer,s diease, one not having to do with the other,,,
so you don,t remember, now don,t get upset,or even miffed, but the people you do not remember are not worth it, somewhere in the spiritual world, they are not worth remembering, sounds weird or crule, i know, but this is just a passing thought about this,
sure the entire thing about not remembering people who seem to know you is, or can even be a bit unnerving, i don,t know what to say about all this, as it being in school, let another ten or fifteen years go by, see about remembering, some people are just being friendly and know you don,t really know them, well i shouldn, t say friendly , i don,t know what is going on here, anyway, hope you have some answers,
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Why are people scared of dying?
When people die everyone looks at it as a tragedy. I see it as a part of life. People live to die. and when people are scared of dying in a sense that makes them scared of living. which influences the type of lifestyle they live. When people are not scared of dying usually they will do more crazy and unexpected things than people who are not scared of it. It also influences the way people see others. when you look at someone in disgust or hatred this comes from the person fearing there own death and even the death of them. not necessarily in the same way but in a way it does. because if a person truly wants to live they have to make it by there own standards not anyone else's. so why do people constantly try and sway other people into doing something rather than informing them of other ideas? and by this i mean a list of ideas that they were unaware of... not ideas that the person telling them is involved with.
Why are people scared of dying?
We are not afraid of death; death happens; dying can be slow, painful, messy and emotionally debilitating
Reply:They either they dont know or dont take comfort in the promises of God. In the bible, he promises to resurect the dead, both rightous and unrightous and they will be judged. Those being found in gods favor will recieve the gift of everlasting life on earth. But in order to be judged rightous, and worthy of everlasting life you need to meet his riquirements found in the bible, from the ten commandments, to the preaching work that he requires, to the things jesus taught on earth in his sermon on the mount and the other things he tought. Theres a lot that go into being a follower of christ.
Reply:Huh? Your not scared of dying? Are you a Spartan?
Reply:I've asked myself the same question time after time. I mean we are all going to die. It's the cycle of life, so why be afraid of something you know is bond to happen? I've realized that it's fear of the unknown. not knowing what happens when you die. you know there so many unanswered questions and when people have unanswered questions they tend to be in an uncomfortable state. And as far as for people telling others how to live their lives-i mean people give advice, you either take it or leave it. sometimes it's good to listen to what people have to say-it might help. people only talk because they feel that it is necessary, at least for the most part.. other times what people say is B.S. you have to know when to listen to what you're told, and when to go with the flow.
Reply:complex question.
Why do people try to sway others rather than informing them of other ideas ( ie. not ideas that person is involved with)? It sounds like you are asking why people are not objective, but seek others to support their belief systems. Your observation about so called 'human nature' is quite descriptive of a lot of human interaction. There is debate about why this happens. The explanation largely revolves around a more social psychological view, that our personality is developed in a social context in which we interact with various types of people. To a large extent our social self ends up being made up of beliefs and attitudes about who we conclude we are and what is right and wrong. This belief system is seen as at the core of our identity. There is a saying 'i think therefore i am'. That sums up a lot of how we function, we are identified with our thoughts and beliefs as the anchor of who we are. If someone thinks or believes differently from us, especially regarding more primitive or core beliefs, we have to sort out how to maintain the integrity of our beliefs by discrediting the other, or getting them to agree with our 'world view'. This is most obvious in religious or political discussion. A very strong are to deal with is life and death. As we are trained in the west to understand and gain security or sense of control from that, it is very intense to face areas we can't prove. The realm of death is not understood well, and there are many theories or theological views on it. So because there is no solid proof that it is OK, fun, safe, or good, there is fear about it. A lot of religious thought has appeared to go into controlling people to behave, by giving them fear about what will happen to them after death, ie. heaven or hell. Why are people afraid of dying, well they are taught to fear it in many cultures. You say if a person truly wants to live, they have to make it by there own standards, and not anyone else's.... and that is very important. But as you can see for strict religions your idea is scary, for the followers are not encouraged to have their own standards, it is the church's standards that must be believed. It would be a radical shift for someone to trust their own feelings or thoughts regarding life or death, if they have been steeped in strong institutional beliefs that have become part of their identity. You will find there are very open minded, balanced folks who can talk with you more objectively, about various viewpoint, and not need to sway you to support their own belief systems. These relatively rare ones, identify with their own unique selves more, and the level of thought and belief less. So they can accept diversity of belief in others, as it does not threaten how they identifiy themseles. Good luck with being unique.
Reply:I actually don't fear death because of the unknown. I have my own religious beliefs that keep that fear at bay. But I DO fear pain. We don't know what it feels like to die, and so while I think I know what will be waiting on the other side, I am scared of the journey there.
Anyone else ever thought of that? Maybe that is its own question. Do you think it hurts to die?
Reply:I think its because they dont want to leave people behind. They fear what they dont know, and are unsure of what happens next. I think this is the time when peopel really question "is there a god" if theya re on their death bed. As for me, Im not afraid of dying in itself. But its the HOW I will die that scares me. Im sure people are haunted of images of drowing, burning ect ect. Thats what scares me the most. Id rather it be quick and pianless. But Im not sure if I want to know when I will die, or how. I just wanna go when I go.
Reply:Reason to scare: What will happen to my hard earned money and property ? Will my loved ones be left unattended?
Reply:People are scared of death because they are afraid of the new, the unknown. They don't know where they'll end up after dying. People who are left behind grieve for the deceased because they can never know if and when they'll be able to meet their beloved ones again.
Reply:Fear of death
1. lack of control
I don't want to suddenly pass away in my sleep or be hit by a car and have left my life in disarray for others to witness and have to deal with. I am dead at that point and shouldn't care. As long as I am alive though, I will care how I am perceived and how my life/death impacts those that love me.
2. sense of loss
You can't make people reenter your life. You can try to pretend they went on vacation, you had a break-up, etc. Ultimately, you know you will never share any thoughts or actions with them again. That is sad. I don't want people I love taking unnec. risks that could lead to an immature loss.
Reply:I think it might be a fear of the unknown. People are, generally, not afraid of things they are familiar with, thus, since we cannot die and tell about it, it remains an unknown.
Reply:There are many logical reasons for people to be scare of dying. First think about it, you are buried 6 feet uNDer the ground, covered with a sheet of concrete, small animal eat away at you, its not something to look forward to, even if you don't know what's going on. 2nd, you will no longer see the people you love, or have the things you love, etc....we know what we have there, no one knows for such what you will get on the other side. So fear of the unknown is always scary. However, if you have strong faith, and hold on to the notion that we are only energy, which cannot be buried or burn, then death become another transformed state of being, because you energy never dies, only the flesh.
Why are people scared of dying?
We are not afraid of death; death happens; dying can be slow, painful, messy and emotionally debilitating
Reply:They either they dont know or dont take comfort in the promises of God. In the bible, he promises to resurect the dead, both rightous and unrightous and they will be judged. Those being found in gods favor will recieve the gift of everlasting life on earth. But in order to be judged rightous, and worthy of everlasting life you need to meet his riquirements found in the bible, from the ten commandments, to the preaching work that he requires, to the things jesus taught on earth in his sermon on the mount and the other things he tought. Theres a lot that go into being a follower of christ.
Reply:Huh? Your not scared of dying? Are you a Spartan?
Reply:I've asked myself the same question time after time. I mean we are all going to die. It's the cycle of life, so why be afraid of something you know is bond to happen? I've realized that it's fear of the unknown. not knowing what happens when you die. you know there so many unanswered questions and when people have unanswered questions they tend to be in an uncomfortable state. And as far as for people telling others how to live their lives-i mean people give advice, you either take it or leave it. sometimes it's good to listen to what people have to say-it might help. people only talk because they feel that it is necessary, at least for the most part.. other times what people say is B.S. you have to know when to listen to what you're told, and when to go with the flow.
Reply:complex question.
Why do people try to sway others rather than informing them of other ideas ( ie. not ideas that person is involved with)? It sounds like you are asking why people are not objective, but seek others to support their belief systems. Your observation about so called 'human nature' is quite descriptive of a lot of human interaction. There is debate about why this happens. The explanation largely revolves around a more social psychological view, that our personality is developed in a social context in which we interact with various types of people. To a large extent our social self ends up being made up of beliefs and attitudes about who we conclude we are and what is right and wrong. This belief system is seen as at the core of our identity. There is a saying 'i think therefore i am'. That sums up a lot of how we function, we are identified with our thoughts and beliefs as the anchor of who we are. If someone thinks or believes differently from us, especially regarding more primitive or core beliefs, we have to sort out how to maintain the integrity of our beliefs by discrediting the other, or getting them to agree with our 'world view'. This is most obvious in religious or political discussion. A very strong are to deal with is life and death. As we are trained in the west to understand and gain security or sense of control from that, it is very intense to face areas we can't prove. The realm of death is not understood well, and there are many theories or theological views on it. So because there is no solid proof that it is OK, fun, safe, or good, there is fear about it. A lot of religious thought has appeared to go into controlling people to behave, by giving them fear about what will happen to them after death, ie. heaven or hell. Why are people afraid of dying, well they are taught to fear it in many cultures. You say if a person truly wants to live, they have to make it by there own standards, and not anyone else's.... and that is very important. But as you can see for strict religions your idea is scary, for the followers are not encouraged to have their own standards, it is the church's standards that must be believed. It would be a radical shift for someone to trust their own feelings or thoughts regarding life or death, if they have been steeped in strong institutional beliefs that have become part of their identity. You will find there are very open minded, balanced folks who can talk with you more objectively, about various viewpoint, and not need to sway you to support their own belief systems. These relatively rare ones, identify with their own unique selves more, and the level of thought and belief less. So they can accept diversity of belief in others, as it does not threaten how they identifiy themseles. Good luck with being unique.
Reply:I actually don't fear death because of the unknown. I have my own religious beliefs that keep that fear at bay. But I DO fear pain. We don't know what it feels like to die, and so while I think I know what will be waiting on the other side, I am scared of the journey there.
Anyone else ever thought of that? Maybe that is its own question. Do you think it hurts to die?
Reply:I think its because they dont want to leave people behind. They fear what they dont know, and are unsure of what happens next. I think this is the time when peopel really question "is there a god" if theya re on their death bed. As for me, Im not afraid of dying in itself. But its the HOW I will die that scares me. Im sure people are haunted of images of drowing, burning ect ect. Thats what scares me the most. Id rather it be quick and pianless. But Im not sure if I want to know when I will die, or how. I just wanna go when I go.
Reply:Reason to scare: What will happen to my hard earned money and property ? Will my loved ones be left unattended?
Reply:People are scared of death because they are afraid of the new, the unknown. They don't know where they'll end up after dying. People who are left behind grieve for the deceased because they can never know if and when they'll be able to meet their beloved ones again.
Reply:Fear of death
1. lack of control
I don't want to suddenly pass away in my sleep or be hit by a car and have left my life in disarray for others to witness and have to deal with. I am dead at that point and shouldn't care. As long as I am alive though, I will care how I am perceived and how my life/death impacts those that love me.
2. sense of loss
You can't make people reenter your life. You can try to pretend they went on vacation, you had a break-up, etc. Ultimately, you know you will never share any thoughts or actions with them again. That is sad. I don't want people I love taking unnec. risks that could lead to an immature loss.
Reply:I think it might be a fear of the unknown. People are, generally, not afraid of things they are familiar with, thus, since we cannot die and tell about it, it remains an unknown.
Reply:There are many logical reasons for people to be scare of dying. First think about it, you are buried 6 feet uNDer the ground, covered with a sheet of concrete, small animal eat away at you, its not something to look forward to, even if you don't know what's going on. 2nd, you will no longer see the people you love, or have the things you love, etc....we know what we have there, no one knows for such what you will get on the other side. So fear of the unknown is always scary. However, if you have strong faith, and hold on to the notion that we are only energy, which cannot be buried or burn, then death become another transformed state of being, because you energy never dies, only the flesh.
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